Potty training is one of those milestones that can feel like it's on everyone's mind—parents, grandparents, teachers, and even the child's peers. For early childhood educators, it's a topic that frequently arises in conversations with families, and one where a little guidance can make a significant difference.
The truth is, potty training rarely follows a perfect timeline. Despite our best intentions and careful planning, children have their own schedule—and their own way of letting us know when they're truly ready. As educators, we're in a unique position to normalize this journey for families and offer reassurance when things don't go as expected.
Many parents feel external pressure—from well-meaning relatives, other parents, or even their own expectations—to meet certain milestones by a specific age. They may compare their child's progress to siblings, classmates, or developmental charts. This pressure can lead to starting the process before a child is developmentally ready, which often results in setbacks, power struggles, and unnecessary stress for everyone involved.
That's where we come in. As trusted partners in children's development, we can remind families that readiness varies widely from child to child, and that following their child's lead—rather than a calendar—is the most effective approach. We can also provide them with evidence-based resources that are both practical and compassionate.
The article linked HERE by Claire Lerner, LCSW, Lerner Child Development, offers exactly that kind of support. It stems from a place of genuine experience and professional expertise, acknowledging the challenges while providing actionable strategies that respect each child's unique timeline. It's the kind of resource that's easy to share during pickup conversations, in newsletters, or at parent meetings—offering families the tools and confidence they need without adding to the pressure they may already feel.
Because at the end of the day, potty training isn't about hitting a deadline. It's about supporting a child's growing independence in a way that feels positive and empowering for everyone involved.
